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‘You’re Not Lazy’: Rich and Rox Pink on ADHD and relationships

Why adults with ADHD are so ashamed and what we can do to help

Dirty Laundry

If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships. 
 
Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or timekeeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour? 
 
DIRTY LAUNDRY is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love. 
 
Learn how to: 
- Stop believing you are fundamentally broken 
- Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world 
- Communicate your struggles to those who love you 
- Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them 
- Be compassionate rather than judgemental ...and much more. 
 
From the husband-and-wife team behind social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love, whose viral videos have been viewed more than 200 million times, comes a fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD. They share the strategies they have used to reduce shame, improve communication, and find happiness in their neurodivergent household. 
 
Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, DIRTY LAUNDRY is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them. 
 
'Made us giggle and helped us forge a much deeper connection with our friends and family with ADHD. A godsend!' Davina McCall & Michael Douglas 
 
‘Essential for ALL ADHDers and those who love them’ *5 star reader review 
‘It’s not just me! Blew my mind, validated my life’ *5 star reader review 
‘Life-changing’ *5 star reader review 
‘Soul-soothing reading for anyone in an ADHD affected relationship’ *5 star reader review

Made us giggle and helped us forge a much deeper connection with our friends and family with ADHD. A godsend!

Highly recommended ... offers resources for both people who are neurodivergent and their partners, as well as models for how to have more productive conversations

Richard Pink is a content creator behind viral social media phenomenon @ADHD_Love, where he has over 200 million global views raising awareness about ADHD. He has co-authored two books, DIRTY LAUNDRY and SMALL TALK, with his partner, Roxanne Pink. 
 
He has worked for 20 years as a leader in one of the UK's largest banks, with extensive experience in managing a diverse team, and helping colleagues to reach their potential. Richard lives in the UK with his partner, and two children. 
 
Roxanne Pink is a platinum selling songwriter, having written 3 UK top 10 hits in the last 3 years. She is also an artist, releasing her own music and touring under the name RØRY. Rox was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, which has been a life changing discovery! 
 
Creating content as the neuro-diverse half of ADHD Love, she is passionate about helping others reach the same acceptance she has found. She is 4.5 years sober, and lives in Sevenoaks.

If you have ADHD - or love somebody who does - DIRTY LAUNDRY will change your life, and your relationships. Do you feel crippling shame because you struggle with cleaning, personal hygiene, or time-keeping? Do you always feel misunderstood by the people close to you and find that they get frustrated by your behaviour? 
 
Dirty Laundry is an unfiltered look into the chaos of real life with ADHD. It will transform your self-hatred into self-acceptance, with simple tips that actually work for your brain. It will also help to educate partners, parents and friends, to help them move from frustration to patience, understanding - and love. 
 
Learn how to: 
- Stop believing you are fundamentally broken, - Stop judging yourself by the standards of a neurotypical world, - Communicate your struggles to those who love you, - Support someone with ADHD in ways that work for them, - Be compassionate rather than judgemental, - And much more. 
 
This fearless, often outrageously funny, account of life, learning, and growing with ADHD reveals the strategies Rich and Rox use to reduce shame, improve communication, and find happiness in their neurodivergent household. Filled with heartbreak and humour in equal measure, Dirty Laundry is an invaluable resource both for neurodivergents and the people who love them.

Richard Pink

Roxanne Pink

A (self) love letter to those whose brains are beautifully and uniquely different. Speaking from lived experience, Rox and Rich manage to shift the paradigm associated with ADHD, which up until now has been riddled with lies and misinformation. This book reminds readers that rather than having a disorder, they are simply differently ordered and when managed with kindness, it can become their superpower!

Riyadh Khalaf , broadcaster, Youtuber and winner of Celebrity MasterChef 2020

Pre ADHD diagnosis I read so many self development books. I used to try to implement what I learned and would feel like a failure, feel frustrated and blame myself for being lazy when I couldn&rsquo;t get those strategies to work for me. Books like this are so important for people with ADHD to break free from holding our selves to Neurotypical standards.

Rach Idowu, 'Adulting with ADHD' Neurodivergency advocate

My whole life i&rsquo;ve beaten myself up, comparing myself to my peers &amp; wondering why i can&rsquo;t handle life like them. but actually, ADHD has made me incredibly special, ambition, determined &amp; capable of the most amazing things that others aren&rsquo;t &amp; for that, i think neurodiversity is a beautiful thing.

Roxanne Pink

Praise for SMALL TALK

A (self) love letter to those whose brains are beautifully and uniquely different. Speaking from lived experience, Rox and Rich manage to shift the paradigm associated with ADHD, which up until now has ...

Pre ADHD diagnosis I read so many self development books. I used to try to implement what I learned and would feel like a failure, feel frustrated and blame myself for being lazy when I couldn’t get those stra ...

My whole life i’ve beaten myself up, comparing myself to my peers & wondering why i can’t handle life like them. but actually, ADHD has made me incredibly special, ambition, determined & capable ...

A (self) love letter to those whose brains are beautifully and uniquely different. Speaking from lived experience, Rox and Rich manage to shift the paradigm associated with ADHD, which up until now has ...

Pre ADHD diagnosis I read so many self development books. I used to try to implement what I learned and would feel like a failure, feel frustrated and blame myself for being lazy when I couldn’t get those stra ...

My whole life i’ve beaten myself up, comparing myself to my peers & wondering why i can’t handle life like them. but actually, ADHD has made me incredibly special, ambition, determined & capable ...

A (self) love letter to those whose brains are beautifully and uniquely different. Speaking from lived experience, Rox and Rich manage to shift the paradigm associated with ADHD, which up until now has ...

Pre ADHD diagnosis I read so many self development books. I used to try to implement what I learned and would feel like a failure, feel frustrated and blame myself for being lazy when I couldn’t get those stra ...

My whole life i’ve beaten myself up, comparing myself to my peers & wondering why i can’t handle life like them. but actually, ADHD has made me incredibly special, ambition, determined & capable ...

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