Hello

Leading behavioural scientist Nicholas Epley helps us understand our social fears and shows how small acts of connection and wiser social habits can transform our lives.

Our happiness, health and longevity hinge on human connection – so why do we underestimate the power of simply saying hello?

Humans are the most social species, uniquely equipped to strike up connections and develop rich and sustaining relationships. Yet we often choose silence over connection. Whether it’s saying hi to the stranger who sits next to us, or moving beyond small talk with a work colleague, or shying away from expressing our gratitude to people we appreciate. But the science is clear: if we consistently do these things, everyone involved turns out happier and healthier.

In this inspiring book, psychologist Nicholas Epley explains the origins of our social fears and how to navigate them. He shows us that bridging the gap between two people is far easier than we think, and success is more likely than we imagine. Introverts and extroverts alike benefit from being just a little more social, and even the smallest adjustments can bring surprising rewards. Epley also shows that gradually building wiser social habits – like favouring conversations over text exchanges – can ultimately have life-changing results.

In a world that is always connected yet ever more lonely, Epley draws on decades of research interwoven with funny and moving stories of everyday people to provide the evidence, encouragement and empowerment we need to choose connection, one small step at a time.